In 2008 I started my natural hair journey. And over the years throughout my journey, I have been through many ups and downs. From overprocessing my hair with box hair dyes to buying horrible products. My hair has survived through everything I have put it through.
So for this blog post, I will be sharing things I learned. That helped me to make better choices when it came to my hair. As well as accepting and embracing my hair for what it is. Instead of comparing it to others as if my hair was not as beautiful as the people I saw on tv or in magazines.
Tips That Taught me To embrace My natural hair
1. Not Everything Online is True
In the beginning, Youtube was my go-to guide.
Especially during the early stages of my journey. I always assumed that everything online was accurate. And that every time I saw someone with natural or textured hair, I just thought it was the same as mine. And because of that, I encountered many split ends and a terrible color job that I did myself. That damaged my hair so bad that it took a year for all of the colors to grow out.
For a while after that, I had to cut back on listening to everything I saw online. Because once I started to do my research and take into account my hair type, it was like a lightbulb went off in my head. The thing is, not every curl, coil, or kink is the same. So for me, I had to learn that not every product or technique is going to work for me. And that not everything online is true or false. Because despite my lows, I have still found some good things online that have worked wonders for my hair.
2. Comparing my hair to others
Growing up, I would see Traci Ross on tv and other women with beautiful curls and textures. Seeing that, I got inspired to go natural. And so for a while, I would always try to compare my hair to other people I saw on tv. Or even people I saw or knew in real life people because I just thought that my hair was ugly. Photo by – InStyle
Especially when it came to shrinkage, I was not a big fan of it in the beginning. It made me feel as if my hair was so short. Like the minute I wet my hair, my length would disappear. Which made me feel insecure as if having a tighter curl pattern like type 4 hair was not attractive.
3. Letting My Insecurities Go
But over time, that all changed. Once I let my insecurities go out the window, I started to embrace the shrinkage. Knowing it is part of the aspect when it comes to having textured hair. And that shrinkage is a sign of healthy hair. Because either way I look at it, it is not going away unless I decide to start getting relaxers again.
When it comes to hair, we are all unique. So whether you have straight, curly, kinky, or wavy hair, embrace it. As well as don’t let society or others not love what God gave you. So love it, own it, and be your authentic self!